is there a lack of effort?

“Christians are mutually dependent on one another and they are collectively dependent on Jesus Christ for life and power. We meet together to benefit from the relationships and ministries we can share with one another. Yet, in drawing on the resources which Christ himself provides through other believers for the growth and development of His body, we are being strengthened in our relationship with Him. The important concept of interacting with one another is not to be divorced from the notion that we come together to engage with God.” EWG pg. 209

If what this is saying is true, then why is it that from my experience that in church the connection between fellowship and engaging with God in our interactions haven’t coincided? Is that from a lack of effort on our sides?